I’m not one to dwell on sad anniversaries – I look at them more as days to remember – the good and the sad, I guess. Also, each day of the week has it’s own “look” to me. Saturday looks different than Tuesday. I’m not sure if this is true for everyone, but it’s how I picture and organize my days and weeks. So, I’m more apt to remember the day of the week of an event, than the actual date. The days of the week have a feeling to me. So even though something may have happened on June 26 and it falls on a Tuesday – the memory is a Wednesday.
And so, here it is, Wednesday the 27th of June – one day after the date of June 26. It was the day that changed my life forever – or marked the march toward the day that would change my life forever.
On Wednesday, June 26, 2013, Ken took a day off from work. He seemed to be feeling fine but just decided to get some work done on the bathroom remodel he was working on. He’d been out in the garage most of the day and at 4:30 I decided to stop what I was doing at the computer and go see what he was up to and give him a hug.
I remember as if it was today, getting up – walking to the door to the garage, opening it and standing there and seeing him working. He looked up and came over to me. I got my hug and a kiss but has he stepped back I noticed he was jaundiced. And from there the next couple of weeks flew by in an instant and he was gone from my life forever.
I don’t say all of this to bring up sadness – although as I write this tears come to my eyes – but to note that there are moments in our life where no matter what we are doing, we can feel what we felt, remember the hours as if they were happening all over again.
Five years seems like a long time. A lot has happened in those five years. I’ve had health changes (I said that Ken’s death broke my heart – and I think it did – literally) and life changes. I have a one year old grandson whom I adore and cannot get enough of. He reminds me of Ken is so many ways but is so much his own happy little self too. It’s strange to sit across from him and see so much family in him. I could stare at him forever.
When I realized for certain that Ken was not going to be a part of my life I knew I had to find a way to be content. Over the years, as I’ve walked with Jesus, I’ve learned to be content. Oh, I wrestle with the facts of life and relationships sometimes but eventually (and hopefully quickly) turn it over to God to handle – He does a much better job of it than do I!!!
I still expect Ken to be in the garage when I open that door to get in the car (the car fits in the garage now!) and I can still see his smile and almost feel the hug as I stand in that doorway.
I hope I can always remember that Wednesday in June memory – it tugs at my heart but it makes me smile too – grateful for all that God has done for me as He’s walked with and carried me through these years.